Thursday, April 5, 2007

Does the Watchtower know?

Jehova Witness Kingdom Halls are a hellish memory for me. I grew up as a Jehovah Witness from the age of 9 until I fought my way to freedom at age 18. I recall children as young as a year old being beaten repeatedly for not sitting still during services. Some sessions, called religious assemblies, were 6 hours long and lasted for 3-5 days in succession.

My nephew was one of many who felt the literal sting of the Watchtower's stance of "spare the rod, spoil the child." I still remember the sick, accepting smiles on the faces of other Jehovah's Witnesses when my nephew(s) were being dragged off to the bathroom by their father.


Here's an excerpt from my book, Out of the Cocoon: A Young Woman's Courageous Flight from the Grip of a Religious Cult. As disturbing as it is, it really happened--for years on end:

"When I was twelve years old, my nineteen-year-old sister married a Jehovah’s Witness, and one year later she delivered a beautiful baby boy. From the time Jon was old enough to walk, he adoringly followed me everywhere. I called him my shadow, and when I did, he giggled hysterically and repeated back to me in his gleeful innocence, “I’m Brenna’s shadow!”

During summer break I sometimes spent a week visiting my sister. Sadly, Jon would come to know at a tender age of one the frustration I experienced sitting on that anthill during those long sermons in the Kingdom Hall. Since there wasn’t a Sunday school atmosphere at these meetings; young children weren’t allowed to amuse themselves with toys or coloring books. When Jon started fidgeting, I did everything in my power to try to keep him still...When I ran out of tricks and could no longer contain his energy, his father grabbed him by the arm and literally dragged him to the restroom to beat him. Jon’s beating became such a ritual that when his daddy reached for him during a meeting, he knew it meant a beating. He cried and pleaded “No, Daddy” as he buckled his legs, refusing to walk willingly to meet his fate.

Everyone in the Kingdom Hall could hear his screams. The sound that echoed from the blow varied; sometimes Jon’s father used his hand, sometimes a belt. After ten or fifteen minutes, they would return with Jon hyperventilating, desperately trying to catch his breath. Beaten into composure, he would sit still for a while longer. Usually he stared motionless into space, his eyes bloodshot from crying. If fate smiled on him, Jon fell asleep in my arms for the duration of the meeting. If not, then back again to the restroom he would go for another beating and the cycle continued, until the closing prayer. It broke my heart. I wanted desperately to stop the abuse, but I was a child myself and didn’t know what to do to save him, or me.

One heart-wrenching day in particular is forever seared into my memory. My sister confided in my mother, father, and me that Jon, then two years old, had asked his father to hit him on his hands with the belt instead of his buttocks. When asked why he wanted to be punished that way, he replied, “Because my butt is too sore.” It sickened all of us. But none of the adults—my sister, my mother nor my father—did anything about it.

The Witnesses seemed to condone it with the “spare the rod and spoil the child” scripture. Within a year, my sister had another child and his fate, sadly, was no different than Jon’s. Meanwhile, my sister’s husband was rewarded for his devotion to the faith. He was made an Elder."

For more information, go to www.outofthecocoon.net

4 comments:

D.M. Schofield said...

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D.M. Schofield
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meeyma said...

When I was 8 years old, I was pulled out of St. Francis de Chantel Parochial School to attend PS 105 in Brooklyn because my parents were studying with JW. Albeit the sentiments of a child caught up in these new circumstances of a vastly different faith are the same, my experience with what I call "weaving and dodging" the faith, my parents, and all the others that spied on me constantly, was very different; I had to sneak around to do what I needed to do as a young teenager and adult bringing about disastrous results time and again.

Fortunately, I come from a large Italian family that would never ostracize my parents for changing the traditional Catholic faith, at least not overtly. We visited aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins constantly, and of course,I was welcomed into their homes at any time. They were not happy with my parents' choice, especially my mother's family who are still in Italy. Also, growing up in a typical Brooklyn neighborhood exposed me to the world at large, both the good and the bad.

Having come from this environment made my separation a lot easier. My parents were not happy with my choice, nor the choices of my younger brothers who also left, but we were always loved unconditionally, even though both my youngest brother and I were disfellowshipped (not a real word, I think, but equivalent to excommunication from a church). As Brenda points out with regard to her father, he not being baptized helped her keep a relationship open for her.

Some of these Witnesses are not such horrible people. They are indeed afflicted with tunnel vision and fascist mentalities, but many are successful in business and in their lives in general. While I disagree with some of the precepts of poverty and schooling futures, I understand what environment she was raised in that manifested in such a horrible childhood.

My childhood was definitely affected in terms of normality, and hey, I probably need therapy, but my motto became "onward and upward". This in part to who I grew up with and where.

Unknown said...

My take on this story you are making up, is to prey on idiots that only bother to believe instead of researching the truth for themselves.

I think you will do real good cause there is a lot of idiots out there that will actually believe your story. Enjoy whatever you are deriving out of these lies because is not going to be for long. Read Galatians 6:7 ( you know the rest)

For those who are reading , the truth is not to far, just go too and at whatever time to any of this meeting and you will see that, what this guy is saying is absurd.

I can't even believe my self I even wasted my time reading your posting.

John said...

Metric how do you know that, that is a lie? Were you there seated beside the child? Are you yourself lying by telling that, that person is lying?